I went on a blind date last night (the anticipation of which was the inspiration for my last post). I would give the date a solid B-. She was super cute and outgoing -- both good things on a date. Unfortunately it quickly became clear that we were not on the same maturity level, which makes it sound like she made crude jokes while I rolled me eyes haha. If anything it was the opposite, she seemed so naïve and innocent, too naïve and innocent. I like my girls more sophisticated and experienced. Of course halfway through the date I discover she is a freshman. Well that explains things.
This date reminded me of a major problem at BYU that I have heard so many girls complain and ask about. Namely, “Why do some many guys date freshmen girls (a.k.a. any girl younger than me)?” 20 year-old juniors complain about the 18 year-old freshman girls, the 25yr-olds complains about 21 year-old girls, and so on. Deep down I think every girl asking the question knows the answer, it’s just a little brutal and they want a different answer. I will explain, but if you don’t want to know, stop reading.
Basically it comes down to the fact that younger girls are cuter on average. Or more exactly, there are more young single cute girls than older single cute girls. Which makes sense right? Generally, the more attractive you are, the more you will be pursued, and the more you are pursued, the more likely you are to find someone suitable and settle down. That is just a sad fact of life, especially for girls. Sorry ladies.
So where as maybe 90% of cute girls are available when they start as freshmen, each year that percentage drops dramatically. A guy finds a girl attractive, makes sure she’s single, and then attacks. It just so happens that a large portion of those attacked single attractive girls are younger.
It creates this horrible situation. For example, my family has a garden and one year we planted strawberries. Someone, (I swear my little sister), started eating the strawberries before they were fully ripe. My dad was enraged and told everyone to wait till they were ripe. The next day more strawberries were gone; my two brothers had jumped on the unripe-strawberry-eating-bandwagon. Now at this point, there were barely any strawberries left! What did I do? I scarfed those puppies down while I still had the chance.
Were the unripe strawberries very good? No. Was it better than not eating any strawberries? HALES YES! My dad, the total sucker, was of course pissed that he didn’t get any.
What I am trying to say is, there is a lot of unripe strawberry eating going on at BYU, but no one wants to be the sucker that didn’t get any / dies alone.
Other factors that contribute to the problem:
- Freshmen girls are soooo easy to impress, it’s like they don’t know enough to figure out if we are losers or not haha.
- The lack of emotional baggage is kinda refreshing. Older girls carry all their past relationships with them, creating new rules and requirements after each their break-ups. It can make a girl really picky and emotionally hung up.
All that being said, I personally never (knowingly) ask out freshwomen, and I much prefer having a relationship with a smart, capable and more mature strawberry. Many guys I know are the same way. We are, after all, well aware of the stigma attached to dating freshies. The problem is we are only going to ask out girls we find attractive, so unless they come out during the next general conference saying that no girls can get married until they are 25, the problem will persist.